QT: How Do I Make It More Serious With Him Without Actually Having To Ask?

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Question Time: You’ve been dating this guy for a while now, you both seem equally into each other, but he hasn’t made that next step to make things more official. Does he see this as just a bit of fun? Is he still dating others? How do you find out where you stand without having to embarrass yourself and ask directly?

Answer: You never want to show your cards first, in fact with men the best way to get what you want is to be as indirect as humanly possible, but still lead the situation. So Get To Work!

First off you must continue the ‘cool, sexy, fun girl’ attitude, don’t start getting all clingy or moody, that certainly isn’t going to help trap him down. Then after a mind blowing night of fun, you check your phone in the morning and giggle to yourself. Turn to him pretending to look slightly awkward, and say that this guy has just messaged you wanting to take you out. You in fact aren’t that interested and you’re really enjoying your time with him, but you don’t want to put all your eggs into one basket, and if he isn’t on the same wave length that’s fine, you just wanted to make sure you weren’t being unfair to him as that isn’t your style.

Like clock work, the simmer of jealousy will turn to the boil, no way does he want someone else taking you on, especially after the night you just gave him. And voila, you have both just agreed to be exclusive.

Lesson To Learn: Don’t ask for what you want, men are like chess pieces, if you move them around appropriately you will not only end up winning but also still manage to keep that cool, chilled girl persona you worked so hard to build.

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QT: I’ve Met Him Through A Dating App, Will People Judge Me If I Tell The Truth?

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Question Time: You’ve met one of the dreamiest men and things are going pretty strong. However, the more you take him to mates parties the more the question arises of ‘soooooo how did you meet?’ You think that everyone will judge you for not being able to get a man the good old fashion way. Doesn’t online dating wreak of desperation? Surely there’s something wrong with you?  Do you come up with a lie to satisfy their needs of knowing, or tell the truth and risk everyone disowning you as a friend?

Answer: If your mates are that shallow, then the question should really be: should I sack them as mates??? Fact is, society has changed greatly and everything is online; we shouldn’t be ashamed of it, in fact people who can’t use digital should be disowned and sent back to the ice ages. What’s the difference between meeting someone online and meeting someone when you’re completely wasted at a party, surely the online one is better as at least you’re making a sober decision?

Lesson To Learn: If anyone chucks it at you about online dating, you simply ask them ‘oh were you kept up all night by your man too? Oh no you didn’t, shame, guess that’s what happens when you go for boring men to simply fit into the group…. At least with my one, we know we have the same passions (in and out of bed).

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QT:You’ve Found Out He Is Cheating On Your Friend, HELP! What Do you Do?

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Question Time: You’ve got hard evidence the little a**hole is cheating on your friend. Obviously you want to tell her, but she is so infatuated, talking of marriage etc that you simply can’t be the one to break it to her, plus you’ve heard what happens to the messenger.. SO what do you do?

Answer: Confront that lying bastardo. Firstly, do so in a public place, make sure to record the conversation, tell him you have naked snaps of him and not only soon will they be going up as your profile pic, but also they are on the way to the printers to be made into real life size posters. Then you shall go onto explain that he needs to tell your friend of his misdemeanours. And perhaps if he does so by the end of today then all of the above will be locked away in a safe only to be used if he doesn’t leave your friend alone.

Once the deed has been done, you organise a big ladies night at yours to cheer her up, oh and of course you must give her the obligatory break up survival kit: a picture of Ryan Gosling with a brand new vibrator.

Lesson to Learn: Don’t be the messenger if you don’t have to, but make sure it is done right. Overall aim is to keep your friend’s hurt to a minimum, and to help pick her up so that soon she’ll forget the ex and have moved on to an Italian stallion who shows her how it’s really done…

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